Pardon me for hitting your wall
Finally! A real post!
Adjusting to living in a new place isn’t new to me. I haven’t lived in many cities but I have had my share of major changes to evolve and adapt easily enough. Although there are some things that I would rather not adapt to.
We have yet to meet any of our neighbors — they seem like they want to keep to themselves. Whenever we’re outside and see someone, I wave to them, and all I get is a wave in return. That’s about it. Multiple occurrences which makes me think that it’s not coincidental. I personally think that’s a bit snobbish! Maybe because the previous owner offended them?! Maybe they are just not social-people, but everyone aren’t? That’s hard to believe. Maybe this is the real suburbia — you keep to yourselves; don’t bother me and I won’t bother you mentality. They all seem to have a wall built around them. Maybe they all have a stick up their you-know-what.
Also, I kind of get the feeling of you don’t belong here every now and again when I’m out with the kids. Back up in the Big City, (also known as BC from now on) where there are 5 or 7 times the population, I don’t get that feeling. It’s a lot more diverse and people are used to seeing Asian faces, and other minorities all the time. Here in Medium City, also known as MC from here on out, there are some Asians, but it seems as though they are more concentrated in downtown area and very very few are in the suburbs. I truly hope this is just me being over sensitive regarding the race issue. Hubby says he doesn’t feel that way at all. However, up in BC, our kids always get lots of compliments from strangers every time we are out. Here in MC I can count the compliments with one hand, with room left.
Aside from those unpleasantries, this MC is actually quite nice. For a city this size, there are a lot of things to do, and the driving distance is very tolerable. I hope as I meet more people personally, my views of this city’s citizens will change too.
June 28th, 2007 at 11:10 am
Don’t take it personally that is what my experience of Suburbia has been like, and I have lived in the suburbs most of my life. In the neighborhood I am in now, I still have yet to even SEE some of my neighbors, literally I have never even seen some of their faces. Most of what you get is a nod or a wave and that is it. When we had people move in next door, we eventually (ok a few months but we were very busy it was summer) brought over some cookies. Had a nice conversation with the girl who was pregnant (our son was about 7 months old then). I figured great, they are are age, are going to have a kid, it will be nice to have neighbors to actually talk to….Now all we get is GLARES from them. One neighbor down the street was going to get her mail, she saw me walking the dog and baby down the street, she waited in the driveway until I passed before she went and got the mail….I guess she doesn’t like dogs? We wouldn’t have been that close to her. It takes a while in the suburbs for people to talk to each other and generally its only because the kids play together.
July 5th, 2007 at 10:39 am
Glad that you are adjusting to the new home. I think that is just part of living in the suburbs. I live in a rather suburban area myself and it is plenty rare to know or speak with your neighbors around here. So perhaps that is just the way it is there. Hopefully it’s not anything race related. Though I can never be amazed anymore at how prevelent race problems still are in our society. Insane.
July 7th, 2007 at 12:48 pm
We moved into a little neighborhood. Most of the neighbors around us were quick to come over and meet us. I hope things have improved for you! How sad that neighbors can be like that.
Sounds like everything else about your new location is really nice.