Comments on: Extended Relatives http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/05/02/extended-relatives/ Entrepreneur. Wife. Mother. Immigrant. Cancer Survivor. Thu, 04 Dec 2008 01:57:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Anonymous http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/05/02/extended-relatives/#comment-293 Anonymous Sat, 07 May 2005 18:50:00 +0000 http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/05/02/extended-relatives/#comment-293 I read your post with intense interest. But also with a level of envy. Not ugly, mean envy. Just the wish that I could have had something like this. I feel like my three souls are just kind of lost out there. I don't have any specific religious leanings so I don't really know where to "put" those that I lost. My grandmother had one stillbirth between my aunt and father - she may have had more losses as well. She was not, from what I gather, very fertile and it took her many years to conceive. When I found out about her stillbirth, it made me feel closer to her - or maybe just closer to my own pain I guess. I suspect our grandmothers would have had a lot to talk about if they ever could have met and communicated. Both strong women who suffered but never complained. Anyway. Thank you for sharing. Moogielou I read your post with intense interest. But also with a level of envy. Not ugly, mean envy. Just the wish that I could have had something like this. I feel like my three souls are just kind of lost out there. I don’t have any specific religious leanings so I don’t really know where to “put” those that I lost.

My grandmother had one stillbirth between my aunt and father - she may have had more losses as well. She was not, from what I gather, very fertile and it took her many years to conceive. When I found out about her stillbirth, it made me feel closer to her - or maybe just closer to my own pain I guess. I suspect our grandmothers would have had a lot to talk about if they ever could have met and communicated. Both strong women who suffered but never complained.

Anyway. Thank you for sharing.

Moogielou

]]> By: Kristin http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/05/02/extended-relatives/#comment-292 Kristin Wed, 04 May 2005 15:04:00 +0000 http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/05/02/extended-relatives/#comment-292 I wish western culture had some way of acknowledging losses. So many people don't realize the heartbreak is there no matter how early you lose a child. Thank you so much for sharing it. I wish western culture had some way of acknowledging losses. So many people don’t realize the heartbreak is there no matter how early you lose a child. Thank you so much for sharing it.

]]> By: Jen P http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/05/02/extended-relatives/#comment-291 Jen P Mon, 02 May 2005 17:41:00 +0000 http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/05/02/extended-relatives/#comment-291 I think it's an absolutely beautiful tradition. I feel breathless reading about it, wishing there was something so beautiful in Western traditions that would allow us to acknowledge the loss and celebrate that there was indeed a REAL child involved. Losing a baby is so hard, something of yourself passes away when the baby does as well and to just have to shelve it and throw it all away??? It boggles my mind. What a beautiful tradition. Thank you for sharing that. Your grandmother is a remarkable woman. Best wishes. I think it’s an absolutely beautiful tradition. I feel breathless reading about it, wishing there was something so beautiful in Western traditions that would allow us to acknowledge the loss and celebrate that there was indeed a REAL child involved.

Losing a baby is so hard, something of yourself passes away when the baby does as well and to just have to shelve it and throw it all away??? It boggles my mind.

What a beautiful tradition. Thank you for sharing that. Your grandmother is a remarkable woman.

Best wishes.

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