Comments on: Indifference or Selfish ? http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/ Entrepreneur. Wife. Mother. Immigrant. Cancer Survivor. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 20:39:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: sweetisu http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-282 sweetisu Sat, 30 Apr 2005 22:31:00 +0000 http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-282 Thank you to all of you for the kind words and your friendship. It means more than you know. Thank you, thank you. I'm sorry for all the pain in your own lives and people's insensitivity towards them. Some day they might learn... And Moogielou, if you're not a Saint, I don't know who is! *smooch* Thank you to all of you for the kind words and your friendship. It means more than you know. Thank you, thank you.

I’m sorry for all the pain in your own lives and people’s insensitivity towards them. Some day they might learn…

And Moogielou, if you’re not a Saint, I don’t know who is! *smooch*

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-281 Anonymous Fri, 29 Apr 2005 18:46:00 +0000 http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-281 My sweet sweetisu... Most people are just so afraid of pain - any type of pain. I run from my own pain but have never been of other people's. That doesn't make me a saint by any stretch of the imagination but it does make me a part of yet another minority. I will sit with my AID's stricken friend as he is vomiting blood into a bucket. I will sit with my friend Maggie as she wastes away from breast cancer and just needs some tenderness. And if I had known you at the time, I would have reached out to you, given you all my love, support and attention and would have been a part of the pain and a part of the rejoicing upon your remission. Much love to you! Moogielou My sweet sweetisu…

Most people are just so afraid of pain - any type of pain. I run from my own pain but have never been of other people’s. That doesn’t make me a saint by any stretch of the imagination but it does make me a part of yet another minority. I will sit with my AID’s stricken friend as he is vomiting blood into a bucket. I will sit with my friend Maggie as she wastes away from breast cancer and just needs some tenderness. And if I had known you at the time, I would have reached out to you, given you all my love, support and attention and would have been a part of the pain and a part of the rejoicing upon your remission.

Much love to you!

Moogielou

]]> By: Ana http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-280 Ana Fri, 29 Apr 2005 05:12:00 +0000 http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-280 I remember when I told people about my molar pregnancy and explained that it might be cancerous and I might need chemo most of them would just look away and say nothing. I felt like if I had had a regular miscarriage, people would support me more than knowing I had this rare condition they knew nothign about. Yes, it was hurtfull, but I guess people just don't know how to react to these things. I'm sorry for all you went through, I can only imagine how hard that must have been. Hugs I remember when I told people about my molar pregnancy and explained that it might be cancerous and I might need chemo most of them would just look away and say nothing. I felt like if I had had a regular miscarriage, people would support me more than knowing I had this rare condition they knew nothign about. Yes, it was hurtfull, but I guess people just don’t know how to react to these things.
I’m sorry for all you went through, I can only imagine how hard that must have been.
Hugs

]]> By: Jen P http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-279 Jen P Thu, 28 Apr 2005 19:34:00 +0000 http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-279 I think for some people, cancer is so ugly they just don't even want to be near it. I guess they think it's catching. It's so sad to hear that they left you alone with your treatments like that. My grandfather had chemo 4 times (2 x treatment for prostate; 2 x treatment for melanoma) and it's ugly. It's not nice. It's not pretty. But damnit, he is still a human being. And so were you. And you deserved a hell of a lot more than that. I haven't actually met anyone else with cancer or a terminal illness, so I can't even try to pretend I know how it is to deal with it. But I hope I can at least have the heart to ask them how they're doing. When I first told my family and friends about the adhesions they removed off my organs I noticed the same thing. People just stopped caring. It was too hard for them to hear. And if they wanted to say anything they gave me all that crap...have you seen x doctor? taken x supplement from GNC? As if stupid things like that mattered? It was a cruel diagnosis and people seemed to not understand (or were afraid) so they just turned off. I've lost a few friends over the changes in my life we made. I guess it shows you who's there for you in the long run and who's there for whatever you have to offer at the moment. I hope you're doing well and things are going really, really well. I think for some people, cancer is so ugly they just don’t even want to be near it. I guess they think it’s catching. It’s so sad to hear that they left you alone with your treatments like that.

My grandfather had chemo 4 times (2 x treatment for prostate; 2 x treatment for melanoma) and it’s ugly. It’s not nice. It’s not pretty. But damnit, he is still a human being. And so were you. And you deserved a hell of a lot more than that.

I haven’t actually met anyone else with cancer or a terminal illness, so I can’t even try to pretend I know how it is to deal with it. But I hope I can at least have the heart to ask them how they’re doing.

When I first told my family and friends about the adhesions they removed off my organs I noticed the same thing. People just stopped caring. It was too hard for them to hear. And if they wanted to say anything they gave me all that crap…have you seen x doctor? taken x supplement from GNC? As if stupid things like that mattered? It was a cruel diagnosis and people seemed to not understand (or were afraid) so they just turned off.

I’ve lost a few friends over the changes in my life we made. I guess it shows you who’s there for you in the long run and who’s there for whatever you have to offer at the moment.

I hope you’re doing well and things are going really, really well.

]]> By: cursingmama http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-278 cursingmama Thu, 28 Apr 2005 15:00:00 +0000 http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-278 People care, sometimes they just don't know how & when to show it. I know I've been remiss - thinking my words wouldn't mean anything; but as you learn more about life and the inevitable end to it you tend to be a more giving caring person. Of course there are lots of exceptions, too many. I work with some of them; and when they're looking for sympathy I go back to my old ways. Can't change all my spots. People care, sometimes they just don’t know how & when to show it. I know I’ve been remiss - thinking my words wouldn’t mean anything; but as you learn more about life and the inevitable end to it you tend to be a more giving caring person.
Of course there are lots of exceptions, too many. I work with some of them; and when they’re looking for sympathy I go back to my old ways. Can’t change all my spots.

]]> By: suz http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-277 suz Thu, 28 Apr 2005 12:20:00 +0000 http://www.sweetisu.com/2005/04/28/indifference-or-selfish/#comment-277 I think most of us just don't know how to respond to others' pain. And yeah, I think most people are selfish and insensitive. For what it's worth, I'm sorry you've been through so much and have that hurt and anger piled on top of it. I think most of us just don’t know how to respond to others’ pain. And yeah, I think most people are selfish and insensitive.

For what it’s worth, I’m sorry you’ve been through so much and have that hurt and anger piled on top of it.

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