In the Bedroom ***updated***
My poor husband hasn’t had any for months now - no, you may not call a ho for him.
It’s not because I don’t love him. On the contrary, I love him very very much and cannot imagine living a single day without him. He’s been there for me through all the ups and downs in our lives. He was there when I was diagnosed with cancer shortly after our wedding. He was there when I decided to shave the remaining strands of hair after harsh chemo, and actually helped me with the shaving. He was there by my side during every chemo session, every oncologist appointment, every checkup thereafter. I cannot ask for anyone who is more devoted to the “til death due us apart” vows. I love him with every bit of my heart.
And.
As you know, I had that hematoma thing going on until the 12th week of this current pregnancy (it was Doctor’s Orders to be on Pelvic Rest). Second of all, that annoying Yeast Infection also moved in and is refusing to pay rent. And lastly, I don’t know about other women who’ve miscarried, but I’m not going to allow anything near my vagina or uterus until I feel it was safe. So I do what any good loving wife would do - avoid physical contact so as not to make the boy blue.
Sad to say, I’m not missing it. I seriously think the chemo stole my libido permanently and sent it into the archives for storage, as I was certainly not like this before cancer/chemo.
Fortunately, I have a 15wk OB visit tomorrow. I will ask the Doctor “so what of the Pelvic Rest?” question and see what he says.
***update***
Well, I didn’t get to see the OB. I saw the Nurse Practitioner instead. NP said it’s best to remain on Pelvic Rest until my halfway ultrasound, which is still an entire month away. Hubby is not going to like that at all.
No internal exams this time. NP measured my belly and said I’m measuring right on schedule. I don’t know what she means, because I’ve only gained is 3 lousy pounds so far. I think I’m suppose to have gained more. The babe’s heartbeat is at 146 bpm; a lot less than the initial 170 bpm. All in all, a good and quick visit that lasted about 8 minutes.
cursingmama Said,
March 16, 2005 @ 3:35 pm
Ask about the missing libido too - it isn’t right, and they can make it better….
amyesq Said,
March 17, 2005 @ 2:43 pm
Congratulations on the great appointment! As for the other issue, well, four letters O.R.A.L.
Kristin Said,
March 17, 2005 @ 7:09 pm
The comment about your belly measuring right on track…she is referring to your fundal height measurement. As long as this is continuing to grow, it doesn’t matter how much weight you’ve gained.
Also, I know that if/when we get pregnant again, at least the first trimester will be dullsville for my hubby. Logically, I know that having sex won’t cause a miscarriage in normal circumstances but logic does not enter into this equation.
Jen P Said,
March 17, 2005 @ 8:50 pm
Just wanted to apologize for not getting here sooner and congratulating you on the growing belly. And poos to the pelvic rest!!
We had a mere month and I know Matt was going mad…I’m hoping the time flies and you get another great dr visit and finally get to enjoy some ‘couple’ time!
Best wishes to you and hope you have a fabulous weekend.