Thursday, November 18th, 2004
You Should be Happy
Yes, I’m very happy with my healthy, cheerful, talkative, energetic (I could go on really) 15.5 month old son. Believe me, I’m thankful to have him. He’s the light of our lives. Lately he’s been dancing up a storm. When we put on the music, he’d rock back and forth whether he’s sitting down or standing up. It’s the cutest sight ever - I’m just a little partial in the slightest. I’m sure you’d agree if you ever saw Seb dance!
That does not justify people telling me how I should feel. Oh you should be happy that you at least have Seb. Hey news flash for you, it’s not a 100% type of equation, where if I loved Seb more, I would feel less pain/sorrow losing our 2nd baby. That’s what these comments feel like to me. Just take a little from here and put it there to make it whole. Yea. Would anyone dare to say to a person with one blinded eye “..you should be happy you still have the other eye..” Or to a parapelegic “..but you still have the other 2 appendages that are useful..” (I could go on really). No one has the right to tell another person how to feel.
People assume they know how I feel because they have been through the exact situation. One needs to keep in mind that people react differently to the same identical situation. Saying “I know how you feel” is quite compassionate and sympathetic, but, do you actually know how that person truly feels??? I think not. You’d have a pretty good idea and all, but again, there are differences because you’re inherently two very different people. Whilst I appreciate the sentiments, but I would prefer it said in another tone or phrased differently. But really, a hug, a shoulder to cry/lean on, and an open ear to listen would be very good (and please close that yap hole unless it’s something unhurtful).
